by Frank T. McAndrew, The Conversation
Recently, my wife and I went through one of the more excruciating
experiences of our lives – the euthanasia of our beloved dog,
Murphy. I remember making eye contact with Murphy moments before she took
her last breath – she flashed me a look that was an endearing
blend of confusion and the reassurance that everyone was ok
because we were both by her side. When people who have never had a dog see their dog-owning friends
mourn the loss of a pet, they probably think it’s all a bit of an
overreaction; after all, it’s “just a dog.” However, those who have loved a dog know the truth: Your own pet
is never “just a dog.” Many times, I’ve had friends guiltily confide to me that they
grieved more over the loss of a dog than over the loss of friends
or relatives. Research has confirmed that for most people,
the loss of a dog is, in almost every way, comparable to the loss
of a human loved one.
Unfortunately, there’s little in our cultural playbook – no grief
rituals, no obituary in the local newspaper, no religious service
– to help us get through the loss of a pet, which can make us
feel more than a bit embarrassed to show too much public grief over our
dead dogs. Perhaps if people realized just how strong and intense the bond
is between people and their dogs, such grief would become more
widely accepted. This would greatly help dog owners to integrate
the death into their lives and help them move forward. An interspecies bond like no other What is it about dogs, exactly, that make humans bond so closely
with them?
For starters, dogs have had to adapt to living with humans over
the past 10,000 years. And they’ve done it very well: They’re the
only animal to have evolved specifically to be our companions and
friends. Anthropologist Brian Hare has developed the
“Domestication Hypothesis” to explain how dogs morphed from their
grey wolf ancestors into the socially skilled animals that we now
interact with in very much the same way as we interact with other
people.